Three Steps to Thriving in Chaos

Here are my notes from the webinar I attended, entitled "Three Steps to Thriving in Chaos."

I am not a person who thrives in chaos. I hate chaos. Chaos makes me anxious and scared. I tend to avoid chaos whenever possible.

But chaos happens to everyone. Some people have more chaos in their lives than others. But we all have to learn to survive chaos. And evidently it is actually possible to thrive in chaos.

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Three Steps to Thriving in Chaos

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Objectives:

Review brain research

3 phases of change

Behavior styles & change

Personal aspects of change

Reasons to change:

Financial

Technological

Regulatory

Global

Cultural

Environmental – example: recycling

Personal

Change can be overwhelming

The only constant in life is change.

Why is change so difficult?

Brain science – aspects relating to change

Stress

Exercise – helps us handle stress – which can increase our thriving capacity

Safety – first priority

Interesting – second priority

We need to balance the need for safety and the need for interesting.

The number one reason why change initiatives fail:

Resistance!

Risk and opportunity affect change.

Do you think more about risk, or about opportunity?

Your answer is significant in how change affects you.

Change is often harder on you if you focus on the risks. But there are also challenges if you focus on the opportunities.

Change can be:

Life-changing

Insignificant

Big

Small

 Transition:

Endings

Neutral zone

Beginnings

Transition can take anywhere from seconds to years depending on the situation.

Endings:

Beginning of a transition

Wide range of emotions:

            Anger

            Sadness

            Denial

            Anxiety

            Betrayal

            Shock

            Grief

            Frustration

            Fear

            Resentment

            Relief

            Excitement

Neutral Zone:

Period of time between old and new

Time of creativity and problem-solving

Emotions:

            Impatient

            Hopeful

            Disconnected

            Lost

            Creative

            Disoriented

            Confused

            Afraid

            Apathetic

            Doubtful

            Frustrated

            Cautious

Beginnings:

Fully entered a new reality

Emotions:

            Settled

            Excited

            Renewed

            Clear

            Confident

            Energetic

            Enthusiastic

            Satisfied

            Eager

            Completion

            Peaceful

            Closure

How to deal with change:

Recognize emotions

Sort your losses:

            Loss of attachments / connections / relationships

            Loss of turf / projects / technology

            Loss of structure / how things work / where you live or work

            Loss of future

            Loss of meaning

            Loss of control

            Naming your losses can help you manage them.

Conduct a reality check: stop an anxiety spiral

Appreciate what was

Create structure / routine

Imagine the future

Clarify your focus:

            What is in your control

            What is out of your control – wasted worry

Reward yourself

Behavior styles:

Controller

Persuader

Stabilizer

Analyzer

Steps for thriving:

Exercise

Use tools and techniques

Be open

Take care of yourself during change

Try not to resist change

Become part of the solution

Help make change more effective and successful

Be mindful of strategies and behavior styles

Change is always going to happen so we need to learn how to deal with it.

If you are a leader, help your team adapt to change.

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